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I was fine. I was absolutely fine. Until I wasn’t. I remember trying so hard to be the perfect mum. To be gentle and patient. I could last for days sometimes. But then one small insignificant thing could lead to an eruption of rage that seemed to come from nowhere. Followed swiftly of course by guilt. I know I’m not the only Mum who has experienced this. Many mothers can struggle with a deep sense of rage that can be overwhelming and puzzling. However, when we explore the emotions underlying this rage, we uncover a profound truth: Mother rage is...

My girls are now age 15 and 17. When they were small they would ask me to “do the bio” whenever they had a sore tummy or couldn’t sleep. Then there were a couple of years, that even if they were on their death beds, they wouldn't want energy healing because “it’s weird!” I am so pleased that in recent times they have opened up to it again. When they are struggling, they don’t want my advice, but when they lay down on my treatment bed I can offer them something much better……access to their own inner wisdom. We know...

"I feel so overwhelmed." is probably the most common phrase I hear from Mums in my clinic. And understandably so! In this blog I present 5 reasons I believe we as Mums can become so overwhelmed, and I offer a new perspective on what we can do about it! ENERGETIC IMBALANCE One day in 2011 I learned that the reason I was tired all the time, the reason I was angry all the time, the reason everyday tasks felt overwhelming, the reason I wasn’t enjoying being a Mum............. was because of a disruption to my energy system, caused, in my case, by...

A moment of self-compassion can change your entire day. A string of such moments can change the course of your life Christopher Gerner   This time last year  I visited a Buddhist Retreat Centre, Dzogchen Beara, in beautiful West Cork and I attended a Self-Compassion Retreat. I was guided and supported in holding my own heart. It was beautiful and moving and for me life changing. Here I would like to share with you a little of what I learned What is Self-Compassion? On this retreat we looked at self-compassion and explored what it meant, and what it looked like. I...

'True Healing occurs when I give myself permission to feel what ever feelings live below the trigger' Gabby Bernstein   What is Shame?:  Shame encompasses a whole family of emotions including embarrassment, guilt, self-consciousness, humiliation….indeed all those times we felt bad about our selves Socialization: Much of the shame in our bodies comes from our experiences during the first 7 years of life, when we were learning how we needed to be in order to be accepted in the world. Humans are tribal animals. Our primal brain knows we need to be accepted, especially by our mothers, in order to...

Inadequate. I think that’s the best word to describe how I felt in the early years of Motherhood. I felt like I had taken a job that I was not qualified to do.  Like I had signed a contract, so I showed up every day and tried my best. And every day I felt inadequate. Every day I felt like I was failing. Oh I bought the books and  followed the parenting experts.  I understood the concept of gentle parenting and would have loved to implement it. I recognized the need for self care. But in reality these approaches felt...